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"Tuning In To Other People." - Free Empathy Training

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By Rev. Bill McGinnis, Director - Internet Church Of Christ - LoveAllPeople.org
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First, you will hear this poem, and please try to imagine the feelings of these people . . .

(The MP3 should start playing automatically.)


Reading by Rev. Bill McGinnis

Come up from the Fields, Father

Come up from the Fields, Father
Walt Whitman (1819-1892), Leaves of Grass, 1900. 

An Ohio farm, during the American Civil War:
The only son is off to war, and the family waits
anxiously at home . . . 


1
COME up from the fields, father, here's
  a letter from our Pete;   
And come to the front door, mother, here's
   a letter from thy dear son.   
   
2
Lo, 'tis autumn;   
Lo, where the trees, deeper green,
  yellower and redder,   
Cool and sweeten Ohio's villages, with
  leaves fluttering in the moderate wind;
Where apples ripe in the orchards hang,
  and grapes on the trellis'd vines;   
(Smell you the smell of the grapes on
  the vines?   
Smell you the buckwheat, where the bees
   were lately buzzing?)   
   
Above all, lo, the sky, so calm, so transparent
  after the rain, and with wondrous clouds;   
Below, too, all calm, all vital and beautiful,
  and the farm prospers well.  
   
3
Down in the fields all prospers well;   
But now from the fields come, father, come
   at the daughter's call;   
And come to the entry, mother, to the front door
   come, right away.   
   
Fast as she can she hurries, something ominous,
  her steps trembling;   
She does not tarry to smoothe her hair, nor
   adjust her cap.   
   
Open the envelope quickly;   
O this is not our son's writing, yet his name
   is sign'd;   
O a strange hand writes for our dear son. O stricken
  mother's soul!   
All swims before her eyes,flashes with black,
  she catches the main words only;   
Sentences broken, "gun-shot wound in the breast,
   cavalry skirmish, taken to hospital,  
At present low, but will soon be better."   
   
4
Ah, now, the single figure to me,   
Amid all teeming and wealthy Ohio, with all its
   cities and farms,   
Sickly white in the face, and dull in the head,
  very faint,   
By the jamb of a door leans. 
   
"Grieve not so, dear mother," (the just-grown
   daughter speaks through her sobs;   
The little sisters huddle around, speechless
 and dismay'd;)   
"See, dearest mother, the letter says Pete will
soon be better."   
  
5
Alas, poor boy, he will never be better, (nor
   may-be needs to be better, that brave and simple soul;)   
While they stand at home at the door, he is dead already; 
The only son is dead.   
   
But the mother needs to be better;   
She, with thin form, presently drest in black;   
By day her meals untouch'd, then at night fitfully
   sleeping, often waking,   
In the midnight waking, weeping, longing with one
  deep longing,  
O that she might withdraw unnoticed, silent from life,
  escape and withdraw,   
To follow, to seek, to be with her dear dead son.  
 
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Provided by Rev. Bill McGinnis
Public Domain

Introduction To Empathy And Empathy Training

Definitions And Purpose

EMPATHY can be defined as "the ability to imagine oneself in anotherís place and understand the otherís feelings, desires, ideas, and actions."

EMPATHY TRAINING can be defined as "training people to have the ability to imagine themselves in anotherís place and understand the otherís feelings, desires, ideas, and actions."

THE CHRISTIAN PURPOSE of Empathy and Empathy Training is to help people follow The Law Of Love ("Love All People As Yourself") and The Golden Rule ("Treat Others As You Would Like To Be Treated.") (In order to follow The Law Of Love and The Golden Rule, we must have empathy so we can correctly imagine how we would like to be treated if we were in the other person's situation.)

Source: Alexandria Research Associates: "Database Of Useful Facts." See => http://www.alexandriaresearchassociates.com

The Law Of Love, The Golden Rule, And The Need For Empathy

The Law Of Love Is God's One Law For All Mankind: "Love All People As Yourself." - All other rules and commandments are subordinate to this one law, and they must not conflict with it. (Details Below) and at => http://www.loveallpeople.org/godsonelaw.html

The Golden Rule Puts The Law Of Love Into Action: "Treat Others As You Would Like To Be Treated." (Details Below) and at => http://www.loveallpeople.org/golden.html and also at => http://www.loveallpeople.org/goldenrulesolutions.html .

If we love other people as ourselves, then how should we treat them? We should treat them exactly as we would like to be treated in the same situation! This is the Golden Rule: "Treat others as you would like to be treated." The Golden Rule puts The Law Of Love into action.

For more about The Golden Rule, please visit "The Committee For The Golden Rule" at => http://www.loveallpeople.org/golden.html

For specific ways to follow The Golden Rule, please visit "The Twenty-One Greatest Ideas In Human Relationships" at => http://www.loveallpeople.org/the21.html

Empathy is "the ability to imagine oneself in anotherís place and understand the otherís feelings, desires, ideas, and actions."
In order to follow The Law Of Love and The Golden Rule, we must have empathy so we can correctly imagine how we would like to be treated if we were in the other person's situation.
- (Details Below)


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The Bible Gives Us The Law Of Love - "Love All People As Yourself."

THE LAW OF LOVE

"Love All People As Yourself."

The Bible states it very clearly, so there can be no possible misunderstanding: the Law Of Love fulfills the whole Law of God.

           
                          THE LAW OF LOVE
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       For the whole law is fulfilled in one word, "You shall love your
       neighbor as yourself." (Galatians 5:14 RSV)
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And who is your neighbor? Everyone is your neighbor. This is shown in the Parable Of The Good Samaritan (Luke 10:25-37).

Therefore, "Love your neighbor as yourself" really means "Love all people as yourself," because everyone is our neighbor.

But what about love for God? Doesn't that come first? Yes, but God counts our love for others as if it were love for Himself. So when we love others, we are loving Him at the same time. This is shown in the Parable Of The Sheep And The Goats (Matthew 25:31-46, in the Appendix below). And we cannot claim to love God until we first love our fellow man.

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       If any one says, "I love God," and hates his brother, he is a
       liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen,
       cannot love God whom he has not seen. (1 John 4:20 RSV)
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But what about The Ten Commandments? Aren't we supposed to obey them? Yes, but The Ten Commandments are only an approximation of what God wants from us. The Pharisees obeyed all of the Ten Commandments, yet God was very displeased with them because they did not have love. The exact thing God wants from us is that we should love our neighbor as we love ourselves. Everything else depends on this.

But what about holiness? Aren't we supposed to avoid improper sex, etc. and be pure and chaste? Aren't we supposed to deny our physical selves in order to strengthen our spiritual selves? Maybe so, but our feeble attempts at being holy do not even come close to God's high standards. To Him, they are like filthy rags (Isaiah 64:6). But if we have love for others, God will overlook a multitude of our sins (1 Peter 4:8). And if we forgive others of their offenses against us, He will forgive us of our offenses against Him (Matthew 5:14-15). Love makes everything holy, since God is love (1 John 4:8, 4:16).

So all of God's requirements for mankind boil down to this one command: "YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF." If you truly do this one thing only, it is enough. It then doesn't matter if you fall short on some of the dozens of others. But if you do not do this, all of the others together are not enough. This is the big one, more important than all the others combined.

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       If you really fulfil the royal law, according to the scripture,
       "You shall love your neighbor as yourself," you do well.
       (James 2:8 RSV)
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=> God's Only Law Is Love - http://www.loveallpeople.org/pearl-godsonlylaw.html
=> We Must Love One Another - http://www.loveallpeople.org/wemustloveoneanother.html

The Golden Rule Puts The Law Of Love Into Action

THERE IS ONE UNDERLYING RULE FOR RIGHT AND WRONG BEHAVIOR:

"TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED."

This rule is known as "The Golden Rule." Some version of it is found in most religions, yet it establishes no particular religion; it leads to harmony among all people; it is the foundation of Democracy; and it leads to the political goal of "Greatest Good For The Greatest Number, With Basic Rights For All."

The Original Statement Of the Golden Rule

      "Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to
       you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets."
            Jesus, as quoted in Matthew 7:12 (KJV)
To apply the Golden Rule, simply ask yourself "How would you like to be treated in the same situation?" Then treat the other person that way. TWO NOTES:(1) When we say, "Treat others as you would like to be treated," this includes all other people, not merely those who happen to be with us at the moment. So we must also consider the impact of our actions on all other people, not only those immediately before us. (2) When we say "in the same situation," this means that our roles and personalities must be mentally reversed, so that we see the situation from the other person's point of view, trying to understand his needs and desires as if they were our own. Also, we need to apply the "Rational Man" standard, long-established in Law. The Golden Rule does not require us to grant irrational requests made by insane persons.

If you need further help in applying the Golden Rule to your particular situation, please visit Golden Rule Solutions.

In Order To Follow The Golden Rule, We Must Have Empathy
So We Can Imagine How We Would Like To Be Treated If We Were In The Other Person's Situation.

Empathy is "the ability to imagine oneself in anotherís place and understand the otherís feelings, desires, ideas, and actions." Source: Alexandria Research Associates Combined Public Domain Database Of Accepted Facts. See http://www.alexandriaresearchassociates.com Empathy can also be described as "tuning in to the other person."

Here Is A Video About Empathy . . .

. . . And Here Is A Link To Our Super-Search Page On The Subject Of Empathy . . .
http://www.lifeofgeorgewashington.org/supersearch-empathy.html

The Two Big Benefits Of Having More Empathy For Other People:
(1) You Will Be A Better Person, More Pleasing To God; and (2) You Will Be More Successful In The World.

(1) You Will Be A Better Person, More Pleasing To God.

The Purpose Of Life is to please God, and the most important thing is Love. And the more empathy you have, the easier it is to love other people.

Are you looking for a clear purpose in life? Do you wonder, "Why are we here?" Do you think life is meaningless?

If so, then this is what you are looking for:

            "The purpose of life is to please God."

How do we know this? Because the Bible tells us. Our purpose is the same as the purpose of the whole universe: to please God.
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       Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honour and power:
       for thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are
       and were created. (Revelation 4:11 KJV)
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"Yes, but maybe it's impossible to please Him," you might say. Wrong. He's not that hard to please.
          "For the Lord taketh pleasure in his people:"
           (Psalms 149:4a KJV)
So what are some of the things we can do to please him? The Bible is full of things that please Him and things which displease Him. Read the Bible and see what He likes and what He doesn't like. Then give Him what He likes and avoid giving Him what He doesn't like.

But the most important thing is love: He wants us to love other people the same as we love ourselves.

LOVE FOR OTHERS FULFILLS ALL OF GOD'S LAW

The Bible states it very clearly, so there can be no possible misunderstanding:

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       For the whole law is fulfilled in one word, "You shall love your
       neighbor as yourself." (Galatians 5:14 RSV)
         _____________________________________________________________
And who is your neighbor? Everyone is your neighbor. This is shown in the Parable Of The Good Samaritan (Luke 10:25-37).

But what about love for God? Doesn't that come first? Yes, but God accepts our love for others as if it were love for Himself. So when we love others, we are loving Him at the same time. This is shown in the Parable Of The Sheep And The Goats (Matthew 25:31-46).

But what about The Ten Commandments? Aren't we supposed to obey them? Yes, but The Ten Commandments are only an approximation of what God wants from us. The Pharisees obeyed all of the Ten Commandments, yet God was very displeased with them because they did not have love. The exact thing God wants from us is that we should love our neighbor as we love ourselves. Everything else is subordinate to this.

But what about holiness? Aren't we supposed to avoid improper sex, etc. and be pure and chaste? Aren't we supposed to deny our physical selves in order to strengthen our spiritual selves? Yes, but our feeble attempts at being holy do not even come close to God's high standards. To Him, they are like filthy rags (Isaiah 64:6). But if we have love for others, God will overlook a multitude of our sins (1 Peter 4:8). And if we forgive others of their offenses against us, He will forgive us of our offenses against Him (Matthew 5:14-15). Love makes everything holy, since God is love (1 John 4:8, 4:16).

So all of God's laws boil down to this one command: "YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF." If you truly do this one thing only, it is enough. It then doesn't matter if you fall short on some of the dozens of others. But if you do not do this, all of the others together are not enough. This is the big one, more important than all the others combined.

                 "Love For Others Fulfills The Law"

       Galatians 5:14 (RSV)
       For the whole law is fulfilled in one word, "You shall love your
       neighbor as yourself."

       Romans 13:8 (RSV)
       Owe no one anything, except to love one another; for he who loves
       his neighbor has fulfilled the law.

       Romans 13:9 (RSV)
       The commandments, "You shall not commit adultery, You shall not
       kill, You shall not steal, You shall not covet," and any other
       commandment, are summed up in this sentence, "You shall love your
       neighbor as yourself."

       Romans 13:10 (RSV)
       Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfilling
       of the law.

       James 2:8 (RSV)
       If you really fulfil the royal law, according to the scripture,
       "You shall love your neighbor as yourself," you do well.

       Proverbs 10:12 (RSV)
       Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.

       1 Peter 4:8 (RSV)
       Above all hold unfailing your love for one another, since love
       covers a multitude of sins.
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LOVE IS EVEN MORE IMPORTANT THAN FAITH

1 Corinthians 13:1-13 (RSV)

[1] If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.

[2] And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.

[3] If I give away all I have, and if I deliver my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.

[4] Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful;

[5]it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;

[6] it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.

[7] Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

[8] Love never ends; as for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.

[9] For our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect;

[10] but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away.

[11] When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I gave up childish ways.

[12] For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall understand fully, even as I have been fully understood.

[13] So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.


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(2) You Will Be More Successful In The World.

Below are listed "The Twenty-One Greatest Ideas In Human Relationships." These ideas have all been tested over the years by many people in many different situations, and they do truly lead to happiness and success in the world.

Your ability to apply these ideas in your own life is directly proportional to the amount of empathy you have for other people: the more empathy you have, the greater ability you have to apply these ideas to your own life.

THE TWENTY-ONE GREATEST IDEAS IN HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS

             Compiled And Edited By Bill McGinnis
               Based On Public Domain Sources
  
                       Public Domain


1. "LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF."

This is "The Law Of Love," God's most important commandment for all mankind.

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       For the whole law is fulfilled in one word, "You shall love your
       neighbor as yourself." (Galatians 5:14 RSV)
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This is the starting point, the Scriptural Imperative given many times in the Bible. (See also Matthew 22:39, Mark 12:31, Luke 10:27, Romans 13:8-10, James 2:8, 1 Peter 4:8.)

And who is our neighbor? Every other person is our neighbor. (See Luke 10:29-37 for Jesus' answer to that same question.)

But sometimes, no matter how hard we try, we still don't like the other person very much, or we still feel anger or resentment. What can we do in cases like this ?

2. FORGIVE THE OTHER PERSON.

The most troublesome harmful emotion is the emotion of anger. You can neutralize anger by making a direct conscious decision to forgive the other person for whatever he may have done to cause you to feel anger toward him.

("As you forgive, so you will be forgiven." See Matthew 6:14-15)

3. TREAT THE OTHER PERSON THE WAY YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED.

This the "The Golden Rule," our most important guideline for dealing with other people.

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      "So whatever you wish that men would do to you, do so to them; for
       this is the law and the prophets." (Matthew 7:12 RSV)
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This is the most important rule in human relations. You can apply this rule to almost any situation, and you will not be far wrong. The Golden Rule puts The Law Of Love into action.
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The remaining eighteen ideas are specific applications of The Golden Rule to different kinds of situations.

4. SMILE AND BE FRIENDLY.

You like it when people smile at you and behave in a friendly way. So do the same to them.

5. BE COURTEOUS.

You like it when people are courteous to you. And you dislike it when people are discourteous or rude to you. So be courteous in all of your dealings with others.

6. BE TRUTHFUL, WITHOUT GIVING OFFENSE.

7. REMEMBER THE OTHER PERSON'S NAME, AND USE IT FREQUENTLY.

You like it when other people remember and use your name. So do the same for them.

8. DON'T ARGUE.

Arguments are very negative. They poison good human relations. You don't like it when someone argues with you. So don't argue with them. And if you see an argument coming, take the appropriate steps to neutralize the argument before it causes too much damage.

9. FIND AREAS OF AGREEMENT.

Relationships are much better when both people focus on their areas of agreement rather than their areas of disagreement.

Most people agree on more things than they disagree on. So if you focus on your areas of agreement with the other person, your areas of disagreement will seem smaller and less important.

10. DON'T CRITICIZE.

Criticism builds hostility and bad attitudes. Criticism is poison to good human relations.

You don't like to be criticized; so don't criticize other people. They don't like it, either. And you won't help accomplish anything good by criticizing.

As your mother should have taught you, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."

11. SHOW HONEST APPRECIATION.

You like it when other people take the time and interest to recognize and appreciate the good things you do. So do the same for them. Everyone does some things worthy of appreciation. Find them, and recognize them in the other person.

12. TRY TO SEE THE OTHER PERSON'S POINT OF VIEW.

You like it when the other person understands your point of view and can see problems the way you see them. So do the same for him. Try looking at the situation from the other person's point of view.

13. GIVE YOUR FULL ATTENTION TO THE OTHER PERSON WHEN HE IS TALKING.

You like it when people pay full attention to you when you are talking. So do the same for them.

14. TALK ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON'S INTERESTS.

You like to have other people talk with you about your interests. So do the same for them. Find out what things they are interested in, and steer the conversation toward these things.

15. ADMIT YOU MAY BE WRONG.

This idea is surprisingly powerful and useful!

Here's what to say, whenever there is a disagreement as to a matter of fact: "Now, I may be wrong about this. I frequently am wrong about things. But this is the way it appears to me:" (And then state your beliefs.)

By admitting you may be wrong, and by admitting that you frequently are wrong (You are, you know. We all are.), you almost force the other person to admit that he, too, may be wrong! Then, with your egos out of the way, you can both search objectively for the truth!

And if you really are wrong this time, it will be much less embarrassing for you than if you had been stubbornly insisting that you were totally right!

16. LET THE OTHER PERSON DO MOST OF THE TALKING.

You like it when people let you do most of the talking. So do the same for them. It won't hurt you, and you might learn something.

17. LET THE OTHER PERSON TALK ABOUT HIMSELF.

You like to talk about yourself, don't you? We all like to talk about ourselves! But restrain the urge, and let the other person talk about himself, instead.

18. LET THE OTHER PERSON TAKE SOME CREDIT.

If something has worked out well, don't grab all the credit for yourself, even if you think you deserve it all. Spread the credit around, share it with the other people involved.

19. LET THE OTHER PERSON SAVE FACE.

The expression "saving face" means to maintain dignity, or not to look like an idiot or a worthless person. Sometimes people do things which make them look like an idiot or a worthless person. If you can rescue the other person in such a situation, and help him maintain his dignity, you have done a very good thing.

And maybe someone will do the same for you some day, when you need it most! "As you do, so shall it be done unto you."

20. HOLD THE OTHER PERSON, AND YOURSELF, TO HIGH AND NOBLE STANDARDS.

People tend to live up to the expectations others have of them. If you expect a lot from someone, he tends to give you what you expect. Likewise, if you expect little from someone, that is what you tend to get.

So act honestly, and expect honesty from the other person; act morally, and expect morality from the other person; act fairly, and expect fairness from the other person.

21. GO THE EXTRA MILE.

You are pleasantly surprised when other people do more for you than you had asked, or more than you expect. So do the same for them: "Go the extra mile."

      Compiled And Edited By Bill McGinnis, Written 1983-2000
                          Public Domain

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Prayers For You To Have More Empathy For Other People

"To Help Us See Another's Point Of View"
Prayer4You 110

By Rev. Bill McGinnis, Director - Internet Church Of Christ - LoveAllPeople.org

MP3 Audio File at http://www.loveallpeople.org/anotherspointofview.mp3
Reading by Sweet-Talk Girl, Free, Public Domain.

NOTE:  When you read this prayer, try to imagine hearing my voice as I
       speak it to you.  In this way, the prayer is reactivated, and it 
       the same as if I were actually praying for you at that moment. 
       (Just like television prayers are reactivated when you watch 
       them, although the videotape may have been shot years before.)
"To Help Us See Another's Point Of View"
Sometimes we are so wrapped up in ourselves,
So worried with our own important lives,
That we do not take time to see the world,
Through someone else's eyes, the way he sees.
The Lord wants us to care for everyone,
To love our neighbor as we love ourselves,
But if we are to do as He commands,
We need to see our neighbor's point of view,
And give it the importance it deserves.

* * *

I pray the Lord will help us take the time,
And give to us the empathy we need,
In order that we may begin to see,
The world through eyes of others than ourselves.
And once we understand his point of view,
I pray the Lord will help us more to love,
Our neighbor as we surely love ourselves.
In Jesus' holy name I pray, Amen.

by William McGinnis, Public Domain

Please see all our prayers at Prayer Index

Also see all the Sweet-Talk Girl MP3 messages at loveallpeople.org/sweettalkgirl.html

Prayer 4 You: To Receive The Gift Of Empathy.

Empathy is "the ability to imagine oneself in anotherís place and understand the otherís feelings, desires, ideas, and actions."
 
Lord Jesus, now I raise my prayer to You,
That readers of these words may soon receive,
Your wondrous holy gift of Empathy.
 
And with this gift, I pray they will begin
To see and know and feel the inner thoughts
Of those whom You will send upon their way.
 
And then I pray that those who have this gift
Will use it well to help those whom You send.
In Jesus' holy name I pray, Amen.
 
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RECOGNIZING HUMAN NEEDS AND FEELINGS

In Empathy Training, it is essential to recognize the human needs and feelings which are constantly influencing behavior. In any attempt to have empathy for other people, we should begin by trying to understand the needs and feelings which may be affecting them.

We have compiled two lists, shown below, which will provide a starting point for considering the needs and feelings of others: "Maslow's Hierarchy Of Needs" and "A Big List Of Human Feelings."

In any empathy situation, please consult these two lists
as a starting point for understanding the other person!

Maslow's Hierarchy Of Needs

In 1943 Abraham Maslow's paper, "A Theory of Human Motivation," was published in Psychological Review, 50, 370-396. This paper first described his method of understanding the various kinds of human needs, their relative importance, and their relationship to human motivation. This description soon became very influential among social scientists, and was known as "Maslow's Hierarchy Of Needs." You can read the original version of this paper at => http://psychclassics.yorku.ca/Maslow/motivation.htm .

Over time, Maslow and others tinkered with the details of the Hierarchy Of Needs, but for our purposes in Empathy Training, the original five-needs version will suffice. These are the needs that are most commonly discussed and used.

The five needs, arranged in descending order of priority, with Physiological needs ranked first.

1. Physiological needs (Air, water, food, sleep, health) - are to do with the maintenance of the human body. If cannot get air to breathe, then little else matters until we do.

2. Safety needs (Shelter, removal from danger) - are about putting a roof over our heads and keeping us from harm. If we are rich, strong and powerful, or have good friends, we can make ourselves safe.

3. Belonging needs (Love, affection, being a part of groups) - introduce our tribal nature. If we are helpful and kind to others they will want to help us when needed.

4. Esteem needs (Self-esteem and esteem from others) - are for a higher position within a group. If people respect us, we have greater influence on them.

5. Self-actualization needs (Achieving individual potential) - are to 'become what we are capable of becoming', which would be our greatest achievement.

Source: Based on the information at => http://changingminds.org/explanations/needs/maslow.htm and at => http://psychclassics.yorku.ca/Maslow/motivation.htm, - as compiled and edited by Rev. Bill McGinnis

Please also see our Super-Search page on "Maslow's Hierarchy Of Needs" at => http://www.lifeofgeorgewashington.org/supersearch-maslowshierarchyofneeds.html

and our Super=Search page on Abraham Maslow at => http://www.lifeofgeorgewashington.org/supersearch-abrahammaslow.html

A Big List Of Human Feelings And Emotions (August 17, 2012)

The adjectives in this "Big List Of Human Feelings And Emotions" should be sufficient to describe most of the feelings and emotions you will ever encounter in people. This list should be helpful to you in any empathy-needed situation.
absorbed abused abusive accepted accepting accommodating accomplished adaptable adversarial aggressive agreeable alert altruistic ambivalent analytical angelic angry annoyed antagonistic anxious apathetic appreciated approved-of aroused arrogant ashamed attached authentic bad-tempered balanced beautiful belligerent benevolent bereft bitter blessed bored brave broken-down built-up bullied calm chaotic cheated cheerful cold commanding compassionate competitive complaining conceited condemned confident conflicted confrontational confused conservative contemptuous content controlled controlling cooperative courageous cowardly creative critical crude cruel crying curious cursed debased defeated deluded demanding dependent depressed desolate desperate despicable destitute destructive detached devilish dignified disappointed disapproved-of disconnected discouraged disgusted disgusting disinterested disturbed dominant dominated dominating doubtful eccentric ecstatic egocentric egotistical embarrassed empathic empathetic empowered enraged envious enthusiastic erratic euphoric excited expressive extroverted fair faithful fearful feminine foolish forgiven forgiving frightened frustrated generous giving glad good grasping grateful greedy grieving grouchy guilty happy harmonizing hated hateful helpful helpless hesitant heterosexual homesick homosexual hopeful hopeless horrified horny hostile humble humbled hungry hysterical idealistic ignorant insecure impatient impolite important impoverished impulsive impure indifferent individualistic inert inferior innocent insecure insensitive insignificant inspired in-service interested intolerant introspective introverted invulnerable irrelevant irresponsible irreverent irritated isolated jealous joyful judged judgmental lazy likable like-a-winner like-a-loser lively lonely lost loved loving mad malevolent manipulated manipulative masculine materialistic mediating meek merciful merciless mischievous miserable mistrusting misunderstood moody moral motivated negative noble obsessed open optimistic overestimated overlooked panicked paranoid passionate passive peaceful perfectionistic pessimistic pitiful pleased poor possessive powerful powerless practical preoccupied priggish procrastinating productive proud punished punishing purposeful pure rage reactionary reclusive regretful rejected rejoicing relevant remorseful repressed resentful resigned resistant responsible responsive reverent ridiculous rich righteous rude ruthless sad sadistic secretive secure seductive selfish self-accepting self-condemning self-defeating self-destructive self-hatred self-obsessed self-pity self-sabotaging sensitive serene sexual shamed shameful shut-down shy sick significant sinful small smart smothered sorry spiritual stable stimulated stoical stricken strong strung-out stubborn stupid submissive suffering successful superior surprised sympathetic tantrums tearful terrified timid tolerant trapped triumphant trusting tuned-in tuned-out unappreciated unaroused unconcerned underestimated understanding understood undignified unforgiving ungrateful unhappy unimportant unloved unmotivated unproductive unrepentant unresponsive unstable unsuccessful unsympathetic untrusting unworthy useful useless vain vengeful vicious victimized victimizing victorious violent visionary weak well-meaning wise withdrawn worthy wound-up


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Empathy Training Song: "Somewhere Over The Rainbow," Sung by Eva Cassidy

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Sung By Eva Cassidy

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What do you think Eva Cassidy was feeling as she sang "Somewhere Over The Rainbow," above?
Can you imaging yourself in her place? How would you feel?



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Empathy Training Music Video: "You Were Always On My Mind," Sung by Willie Nelson

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What do you think Willie Nelson was feeling as he sang "You Were Always On My Mind," above?
Can you imaging yourself in his place? How would you feel?



Empathy Training Video Clips - From TV And Movies
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Some Video From The TV Series, "Doc Martin."


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Empathy Training Poems
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"An Empathy Training Poem By Walt Whitman, With MP3 Reading"


Empathy: In order to follow The Golden Rule ("Treat others as you would like to be treated"), we need to understand and care how other people feel in certain situations. The poem below is intended to help us understand and share the feelings of other people in a moment of dreaded bad news. Please try to understand and share the feelings of the characters -- particularly the mother -- in this classic poem.

It will help you to understand the poem if you listen to the MP3 reading while you read the words silently.

"Come Up From The Fields, Father,"
An Empathy Training Poem By Walt Whitman

A Civil War mother learns of the death of her only son.


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Come up from the Fields, Father


Come up from the Fields, Father
Walt Whitman (1819-1892), Leaves of Grass, 1900. 

1
COME up from the fields, father, here's
  a letter from our Pete;   
And come to the front door, mother, here's
   a letter from thy dear son.   
   
2
Lo, 'tis autumn;   
Lo, where the trees, deeper green,
  yellower and redder,   
Cool and sweeten Ohio's villages, with
  leaves fluttering in the moderate wind;
Where apples ripe in the orchards hang,
  and grapes on the trellis'd vines;   
(Smell you the smell of the grapes on
  the vines?   
Smell you the buckwheat, where the bees
   were lately buzzing?)   
   
Above all, lo, the sky, so calm, so transparent
  after the rain, and with wondrous clouds;   
Below, too, all calm, all vital and beautiful,
  and the farm prospers well.  
   
3
Down in the fields all prospers well;   
But now from the fields come, father, come
   at the daughter's call;   
And come to the entry, mother, to the front door
   come, right away.   
   
Fast as she can she hurries, something ominous,
  her steps trembling;   
She does not tarry to smoothe her hair, nor
   adjust her cap.   
   
Open the envelope quickly;   
O this is not our son's writing, yet his name
   is sign'd;   
O a strange hand writes for our dear son. O stricken
  mother's soul!   
All swims before her eyes,flashes with black,
  she catches the main words only;   
Sentences broken, "gun-shot wound in the breast,
   cavalry skirmish, taken to hospital,  
At present low, but will soon be better."   
   
4
Ah, now, the single figure to me,   
Amid all teeming and wealthy Ohio, with all its
   cities and farms,   
Sickly white in the face, and dull in the head,
  very faint,   
By the jamb of a door leans. 
   
"Grieve not so, dear mother," (the just-grown
   daughter speaks through her sobs;   
The little sisters huddle around, speechless
 and dismay'd;)   
"See, dearest mother, the letter says Pete will
soon be better."   
  
5
Alas, poor boy, he will never be better, (nor
   may-be needs to be better, that brave and simple soul;)   
While they stand at home at the door, he is dead already; 
The only son is dead.   
   
But the mother needs to be better;   
She, with thin form, presently drest in black;   
By day her meals untouch'd, then at night fitfully
   sleeping, often waking,   
In the midnight waking, weeping, longing with one
  deep longing,  
O that she might withdraw unnoticed, silent from life,
  escape and withdraw,   
To follow, to seek, to be with her dear dead son.  
 
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The Good Samaritan (Luke 10:25-37)
Shows That Everyone Is Our Neighbor
The Perfect Example Of The Golden Rule

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This is the story of the good Samaritan, as recorded in the Bible in 
   LUKE chapter 10, verses 25 through 37.

                         The Good Samaritan
   
   And, behold, a certain lawyer stood up, and tested him, saying,
   Master, what shall I do to inherit eternal life?
   
   He said unto him, What is written in the law? how do you read
   it?
   
   And he answering said, You shall love the Lord your God with all
   your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your strength, and
   with all your mind; and your neighbor as yourself.
   
   And he said unto him, You have answered right: this do, and you
   shall live.
   
   But he, willing to justify himself, said unto Jesus, And who is
   my neighbor?
   
   And Jesus answering said, A certain man went down from Jerusalem
   to Jericho, and fell among thieves, which stripped him of his
   clothing, and wounded him, and departed, leaving him half dead.
   
   And by chance there came down a certain priest that way: and
   when he saw him, he passed by on the other side.
   
   And likewise a Levite, when he was at the place, came and looked
   on him, and passed by on the other side.
   
   But a certain Samaritan, as he journeyed, came where he was: and
   when he saw him, he had compassion on him,
   
   And went to him, and bound up his wounds, pouring in oil and
   wine, and set him on his own beast, and brought him to an inn, and
   took care of him.
   
   And on the next day when he departed, he took out two denarii,
   and gave them to the host, and said unto him, Take care of him; and
   whatsoever you spend more, when I come again, I will repay you.
   
   Which now of these three, think you, was neighbor unto him that
   fell among the thieves?
   
   And he said, He that showed mercy on him. Then said Jesus unto
   him, Go, and do likewise.
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Here ends the story of the good Samaritan.
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