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"Treat Others As You Would Like To Be Treated."
We recognize and accept the Golden Rule, "TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED," as the clearest expression of God's First Rule for all mankind. And we urge all people to join with us in living and teaching The Golden Rule.
Properly applied, The Golden Rule provides the best possible solution to any problem of interpersonal relationships.
The easiest way to apply The Golden Rule to real life is to ask yourself the question "How would you like to be treated in similar circumstances?" Then treat the other person that way. BUT: You must also consider the impact of your actions on all other people, not only those immediately before you. So if you give all of your time or money to the needy person who asks you for help, you will be depriving the other people who are depending on you for emotional or financial support. You should balance your help in order to create the greatest amount of human happiness. A successful Golden Rule application will increase total human happiness, not decrease it.
I can help you apply The Golden Rule to any situation where it is needed. There is no charge for this service. Simply write to me and tell me what the problem is, and I will try to help.
"The Twenty-One Greatest Ideas In Human Relationships" includes eighteen specific applications of The Golden Rule. (No charge.) And a "Computer-Assisted Learning" course on the Twenty-One Greatest Ideas In Human Relationships is available for download http://patriot.net/users/bmcgin/21gr31.zip (No charge.)
This is "The Law Of Love," God's most important commandment for all mankind.
___________________________________________________________ For the whole law is fulfilled in one word, "You shall love your neighbor as yourself." (Galatians 5:14 RSV) _____________________________________________________________
This is the starting point, the Scriptural Imperative given many times in the Bible. (See also Matthew 22:39, Mark 12:31, Luke 10:27, Romans 13:8-10, James 2:8, 1 Peter 4:8.)
And who is our neighbor? Every other person is our neighbor. (See Luke 10:29-37 for Jesus' answer to that same question.)
But sometimes, no matter how hard we try, we still don't like the other person very much, or we still feel anger or resentment. What can we do in cases like this ?
The most troublesome harmful emotion is the emotion of anger. You can neutralize anger by making a direct conscious decision to forgive the other person for whatever he may have done to cause you to feel anger toward him.
("As you forgive, so you will be forgiven." See Matthew 6:14-15)
This the "The Golden Rule," our most important guideline for dealing with other people.
_____________________________________________________________ "So whatever you wish that men would do to you, do so to them; for this is the law and the prophets." (Matthew 7:12 RSV) _____________________________________________________________This is the most important rule in human relationships. You can apply this rule to almost any situation, and you will not be far wrong. The Golden Rule puts The Law Of Love into action.
The remaining eighteen ideas are specific applications of The Golden Rule to different kinds of situations.
You like it when people smile at you and behave in a friendly way. So do the same to them.
You like it when people are courteous to you. And you dislike it when people are discourteous or rude to you. So be courteous in all of your dealings with others.
You like it when other people remember and use your name. So do the same for them.
Arguments are very negative. They poison good human relationships. You don't like it when someone argues with you. So don't argue with them. And if you see an argument coming, take the appropriate steps to neutralize the argument before it causes too much damage.
Relationships are much better when both people focus on their areas of agreement rather than their areas of disagreement.
Most people agree on more things than they disagree on. So if you focus on your areas of agreement with the other person, your areas of disagreement will seem smaller and less important.
Criticism builds hostility and bad attitudes. Criticism is poison to good human relationships.
You don't like to be criticized; so don't criticize other people. They don't like it, either. And you won't help accomplish anything good by criticizing.
As your mother should have taught you, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."
You like it when other people take the time and interest to recognize and appreciate the good things you do. So do the same for them. Everyone does some things worthy of appreciation. Find them, and recognize them in the other person.
You like it when the other person understands your point of view and can see problems the way you see them. So do the same for him. Try looking at the situation from the other person's point of view.
You like it when people pay full attention to you when you are talking. So do the same for them.
You like to have other people talk with you about your interests. So do the same for them. Find out what things they are interested in, and steer the conversation toward these things.
This idea is surprisingly powerful and useful!
Here's what to say, whenever there is a disagreement as to a matter of fact: "Now, I may be wrong about this. I frequently am wrong about things. But this is the way it appears to me:" (And then state your beliefs.)
By admitting you may be wrong, and by admitting that you frequently are wrong (You are, you know. We all are.), you almost force the other person to admit that he, too, may be wrong! Then, with your egos out of the way, you can both search objectively for the truth!
And if you really are wrong this time, it will be much less embarrassing for you than if you had been stubbornly insisting that you were totally right!
You like it when people let you do most of the talking. So do the same for them. It won't hurt you, and you might learn something.
You like to talk about yourself, don't you? We all like to talk about ourselves! But restrain the urge, and let the other person talk about himself, instead.
If something has worked out well, don't grab all the credit for yourself, even if you think you deserve it all. Spread the credit around, share it with the other people involved.
The expression "saving face" means to maintain dignity, or not to look like an idiot or a worthless person. Sometimes people do things which make them look like an idiot or a worthless person. If you can rescue the other person in such a situation, and help him maintain his dignity, you have done a very good thing.
And maybe someone will do the same for you some day, when you need it most! "As you do, so shall it be done unto you."
People tend to live up to the expectations others have of them. If you expect a lot from someone, he tends to give you what you expect. Likewise, if you expect little from someone, that is what you tend to get.
So act honestly, and expect honesty from the other person; act morally, and expect morality from the other person; act fairly, and expect fairness from the other person.
You are pleasantly surprised when other people do more for you than you had asked, or more than you expect. So do the same for them: "Go the extra mile."
You can contact me, Bill McGinnis, at email@example.com.
Rev. Bill McGinnis, Director Golden Rule Solutions
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"Love All People As Yourself."
"Treat Others As You Would Like To Be Treated."
GOD'S ONE LAW FOR ALL MANKIND: "Love All People As Yourself."