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Perfect Christian Sex

God wants us to seek perfection in all that we do, including our sexual life. As Scripture says . . .
        "Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father
         which is in heaven is perfect." (Matthew 5:48 KJV)
Here, then, is a description of perfect Christian sex, as set forth in the Bible, God's instruction manual for our lives.

Your Sexual Relationship Has One Man, One Woman: Married

As Scripture says . . .
       "Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, 
        and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be
        one flesh." (Genesis 2:24 KJV)
Also . . .
             "Nevertheless, to avoid fornication (sexual
              immorality), let every man have his own wife 
              and let every woman have her own husband."
              (1 Corinthians 7:2 KJV)
There is also the concept of "common law" marriage, or being "married in the eyes of God." Whenever a man and woman give themselves to each other exclusively, intending it to be a permanent relationship, they are "married in the eyes of God." Nowhere in Scripture is any particular marriage ceremony required of us.

Your Spouse Is Not A Close Relative

(See Leviticus 18 for a list of forbidden relatives.)

You And Your Spouse Are Both Christians

As Scripture says . . .
        "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers:
         for what fellowship hath righteousness with
         unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with
         darkness? (2 Corinthians 6:14 KJV)

Neither Of You Has Ever Been Divorced

Scripture tells us that God hates divorce . . .
         "For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that
          he hateth putting away (divorce):"
          (Malachi 1:16a KJV)

You Have No Sexual Activity Outside Your Married Relationship

In particular, you have no adultery, which is sex with penile penetration, in which either one of the partners is married to someone else. This offense is specifically prohibited in the Ten Commandments, and was punishable by death in the Old Testament.

As Scripture says, as one of the Ten Commandments . . .

   "Thou shalt not commit adultery." (Exodus 20:14 KJV)
More generally, you have no sexual contact whatsoever outside your marriage. You and your spouse are "one flesh," not to be shared with others.
       "Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, 
        and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be
        one flesh." (Genesis 2:24 KJV)

Your Sex Life Is Filled With Pleasure

As Scripture says . . .
        "Let thy fountain (penis) be blessed: and rejoice with
         the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind
         (female deer) and pleasant roe (female wild goat);
         let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be
         thou ravished always with her love." 
         (Proverbs 5:18-19 KJV)

Your Sex Life Is Not Against Nature In Any Way

As Scripture says, speaking in favor of "the natural use," . . .
         "For this cause God gave them up unto vile
          affections: for even their women did change
          the natural use into that which is against
         "And likewise also the men, leaving the natural
          use of the woman, burned in their lust one
          toward another; men with men working that which
          is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that
          recompense of their error which was meet (due).
          (Romans 1:26-27 KJV)

There Is No Filthiness In Your Sex Life

As Scripture says . . .
       "Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved,
        let us cleans ourselves from all filthiness of the
        flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear
        of God." (2 Corinthians 7:1 KJV)

She Is Not On Her Period When You Make Love

As Scripture says . . .
       "Also thou shalt not approach unto a woman to
        uncover her nakedness, as long as she is put
        apart for her uncleanness (menstrual period)."
        (Leviticus 18:19 KJV)

You Both Are Willing To Conceive And Bear Children, Not Blocking Conception In Any Way

As Scripture says . . .
      "And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be
       fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth,
       and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of 
       the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over
       every living thing that moveth upon the earth."
       (Genesis 1:28 KJV)
This commandment to multiply is somewhat moderated by the later commandment that a man should provide "for his own," (1 Timothy 5:8), in the sense that too many additional children would deprive the earlier ones of needed resources. Thus birth control is sometimes justified.

There Is No PORNEIA In Your Life

PORNEIA is the Greek catch-all word for improper sexual behavior, usually translated as "fornication" or "sexual immorality." As used by Paul and the other Apostles, it certainly includes all adultery (Exodus 20:14), incest (Leviticus 18:6-18), bestiality (Leviticus 18:23), male homosexuality, with penetration (Leviticus 18:22), male and female homosexuality in general (Romans 1:26-27), prostitution (harlotry - 1 Corinthians 6:15), general sexual looseness (playing the harlot - Ezekiel 16:41), intercourse during menstruation (Leviticus 18:19), plus perhaps other offenses unspecified.

    "For this is the will of God, even your sanctification,
     that ye should abstain from fornication (Greek PORNEIA):"
     (1 Thessalalonians 4:3 KJV)
Some people believe that PORNEIA includes all sex of any sort outside of marriage, even for those who are not married, including masturbation and all forms of pre-marital petting. I find no Scriptural evidence for that belief.

The only Scripture that even remotely seems to prohibit masturbation is Genesis 38:9, part of the story of Onan. But here, his sin was not the spilling of the semen on the ground, but his failure to impregnate the woman God had told him to impregnate.

              "And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came
               to pass, when he went in unto his brother's wife, that he
               spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to
               his brother." (Genesis 38:9 KJV)

On the contrary, Scripture recognizes and accepts the fact that we love our own bodies. We are encouraged to love our spouse's body as we love our own.

       EPHESISIANS 5:28-33 (KJV)
               So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He
               that loveth his wife loveth himself.
               For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth
               and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
               For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his
               For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother,
               and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be
               one flesh.
               This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and
               the church.
               Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love
               his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she
               reverence her husband.

So I find no Scriptural prohibition against masturbation, either alone or with your spouse. Masturbation can be the "way to escape" from sexual sin (PORNEIA), as promised in 1 Corinthians 10:13.
      "There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man:
       but God is faithful, who will not suffer (permit) you to be tempted
       above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to
       escape, that ye may be able to bear it." (1 Corinthians 10:13 KJV)
In Roman Catholic tradition, masturbation is considered to be a sin; but not in Scripture itself.
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Is your sex life perfect, as described above? Probably not. Mine isn't, either. But this is not surprising, since, as Scripture says . . .

           "For all have sinned, and come short of the
            glory of God;" (Romans 3:23 KJV)
So what should we do to make our sex life more perfect?

First, we should throw ourselves on the mercy of God, as the despised publican did in this verse from Scripture . . .

        "And the publican, standing afar off, would not
         lift up so much as his eyes unto heaven, but smote
         his breast, saying, God be merciful to me a sinner."
         (Luke 18:13 KJV)
Then, we should ask God to give us what we need, according to His will for us. As Scripture says . . .
         "Be careful (anxious) for nothing; but in every
          thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving
          let your requests be made known unto God." 
          (Philippians 4:6 KJV)
Here is a suggested prayer we can use . . .
     O Lord, Creator of the Universe,
     I thank you for the many blessings You have given me,
     Including the wonderful blessing of sex.
     But I have fallen short in my use of sex,
     And I have misused this gift from You.
     I acknowledge my sexual faults, and am sorry for them.
     Please be merciful to me, a sinner.
     Lord, according to Your will, please change my heart
       So that I will desire only those things that are
       Pleasing to You.
     And give to me everything I truly need 
       To live my life as You would have me live it.
     In Jesus' holy Name I pray, Amen.
May the Lord bless you as you move closer and closer to Him.
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